Sailing Through the Rough Waters of Relationships

There’s more to a relationship than just being romantic during candle-lit dinners and having an enjoyable sex life. People involved in a serious relationship should take into consideration each other’s physical, emotional, and psychological well-being. It should be founded in the proverbial understanding, respect, love, and trust.
All relationships sail through rough waters, without these ingredients it will be difficult to maintain a healthy relationship. There are certain situations where a partner may exhibit abusive and unacceptable behaviors. Violence in a relationship is not just physical abuse. It can involve emotional or psychological bullying.
Abusive relationships are characterized by extreme jealousy, emotional withholding, lack of intimacy, raging, sexual coercion, infidelity, verbal abuse, threats, lies, broken promises, physical violence, power plays and control games.
The damaging effects of emotional abuse is sometimes even greater than physical abuse, though it is often harder to recognize, and therefore to recover from. It causes long term self esteem problems and complex emotional consequences for the abused partner. Abuse typically alternates with declarations of love and statements that they will change, in order to “hook” the partner into the relationship.
There are some men who are abused, women are more likely to become the victim of an abusive relationship. Abusers are often very charming and acts very convincing to everyone. This charade usually has a confusing effect on the abused partner, one or both partners think it was their fault. Telling other people about the real situation makes the person feel awkward due to the image that the other partner man has projected with others.
People should be aware of the following warning signs that tell they may be entering an abusive relationship:
When your partner has been in a violent relationship before, ·. Abusive people rarely change.
Almost every abuser claims that he or she was the real victim.
When your partner always put your friends down and makes it difficult for you to see them, ·.
· Abusive individuals lose their temper over trivial things.
· The abusive person has very rigid ideas about the roles of women and men and can’t/ won’t discuss it reasonably.
· The mood swings of abusive individuals are so erratic that you find yourself constantly trying to assess your mood and only think in terms of his or her needs. Having a healthy relationship is essentially about having give-and-take between the partners.
· Sometimes, it is important one or both partners to have some physical or emotional space away from each other. When the a partner is too controlling, no such space is allowed.
· When your partner criticizes you all the time – about your weight, your hair, your clothes, etc.
· When your partner makes all the decisions in your relationship and ignores your needs or dismisses them as unimportant.

Take note of behavioral patterns that show restriction, disrespect, and control. No partner should keep the other person from making his or her own choices in life. Abusive relationships can not be changed from one side. It can not change without sustained group therapy. Staying in the relationship is to condone the abuse and helping your partner to stay sick. Removing the abused partner from the situation as well as group therapy and counseling is necessary in healing the relationship.

7 responses on “Sailing Through the Rough Waters of Relationships

  1. Dorothy Flame

    I’ve been in a relationship for quite some time now and trust me on this having a relationship is no joke, you should always be ready on whats going to happen, be a step advance.

  2. Janice Richefort Post author

    You guys treat this as a joke but nevertheless you can change the fact that some person can’t handle this, there are people who are really depressed with how their relationship works so please don’t treat this as a joke.

  3. Jose Algas

    Sometimes, it is important one or both partners to have some physical or emotional space away from each other. When the a partner is too controlling, no such space is allowed.

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